I don't why, but this week too many incidents are making me feel very rebellious!! Everything that is wrong is making me even more angry. The worst part is that although i try, i can't change it. 8 months back, my relative (one of my 2nd cousins) got married. I was pretty happy and all...he is 28 years old and runs the family business. Since we are not "that" close to them it can be termed a formal event. The girl he was getting married to was 21 years of age and an engineer in the making. She was in third year doing computer engineering from Benaras. However she came from a very humble and modest background and getting married and leaving your education half way, was not a great deal. She agreed to the marriage like a dutiful Indian daughter who has been taught not to question order.
She gave up her studies and now she is 6 months pregnant. I don't know whether she is happy, coz she never says anything. But what i question is, would a boy have been told to give up his education to get married and bring up a child. Inspite of being a good student, she had to leave her studies so she does'nt become a burden on her parents or cross the baby producing age. It is just incorrigible to see how even today in the 21st century, we have not been able to break our narrow minds and ways of implying our desicions. Leaving out a handful of people, even today in a middle class family, it is a ritual to start discussing a girls marriage once she reaches 20.
This is just disgusting. Our society has no balance. The word equillibrium has no significance any more. Some people are getting married at 60 and producing test tube babies and booking old age homes at the same time while some are getting married at 18 giving up their dreams ..to be dutiful daughters and wife's.
All our lifes we have been taught to obey and be dutiful. Never to Question the order, but is that normal?? But is not normal to question the right from the wrong once you have the ability to do so?? I thought these injustices were left behind in the 1960's but somehow now they are still very much active, just not visible to the naked eye!!
A lot of women's welfare organisations are mushrooming all over the country and the world these days... but i doubt whether anybody pays heed to the ordinary girl's woes. There might be a girl who has all the nessecities of life but wants to have a Dr. or M.A. beside her initials but is made to carry babies and cook all her life. Why don't we call it injustice?? Does a woman always have be poor or a protitute or a victim of physical torture to get some help?? I don't know. Maybe we are too steeped in the comfort of our hypocritical society to go forward and take notice of anything.